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DEAR UNTHANKED: If I felt close to the daughter, I would attend the wedding. I would give her a gift, recognizing that it probably would not be acknowledged because the girls were never taught the social graces. But I wouldn’t preemptively penalize daughter No. 3 for the sin of omission committed by her sisters.

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A few years ago, we were invited to the wedding of my cousin’s eldest daughter. Although my cousin and I are close, I barely know the daughter. We were invited only because my cousin wanted me there.